Let's Talk About Sex, Baby!

Did you grow up with parents that had healthy conversations to you about sex? Or was sex taboo? I know for me my parents never talked to me about sex. I had to learn about sex from my friends and I wish that wasn't the case. I believe whole-heartedly, that parents should be having open conversations with their children about their body and about sex, so when they are about to get married there will be no surprises. Sometimes I feel like talking about making love is taboo in our mormon culture because we talk about how wrong it is outside the bonds of marriage. I feel like we need to do better about talking about how it is a beautiful gift from God and that we need to embrace the want to be physical with our spouse. This way people won't feel so uncomfortable when it comes to the time when they are actually married and are allowed to make love with their spouse. It is SO important that we talk about this sacred topic and for people to be informed! Not only the mechanics behind it, but also the reason why we have these sexual desires. I believe that it is important to be honest about this conversation, but also still be respectful. Sexual intimacy is an extremely sacred thing between a husband and wife and it should be treated as such.

There is an article call "Fullfing the Sexual Stewardship in Marriage" by Sean E. Brotherson and he talks about many great topics about sexual intimacy in marriage. It is so important that you keep an open and honest conversation open about your sex life, because when needs are not talked about, that is when feelings get hurt. Brotherson says,"I love the quote,”So often when a husband and wife talk to each other about their sexual needs, their conversations are … indirect, imprecise, inconclusive. Frequently both partners are in a hurry to end the conversation, hopeful that they will miraculously understand each other's desires without much talk … The problem is that the less clear you are about what you do and don't want, the less likely you are to get it. Sex can be such a fun way to share with each other and deepen your sense of intimacy. But when communication is fraught with tension, then frustration and hurt feelings too often result”. Sex should not be a burden in the marriage. God created us to have this sexual desires for a person, so that we can bond with our spouse in an intimate way.